Whether or not Americans have a culture, which is an argument beyond the scope of this entry, there is one thing that we do have that is perhaps more developed than most (but not all) other cultures. Phone etiquette and particularly the etiquette regarding mobile phones.
Etiquette is a big word for manners or politeness. Being polite while using the phone is not something many of us are taught, especially due to the proliferation of the mobile phone, and so it is difficult for our traditions on politeness to keep up with the spread of technology. Even so, I feel that most cultures have even less manners regarding phone use.
For one, you don’t answer the phone at the dinner table. Ever. If it is an important call, then it is acceptable for you to excuse yourself from the table. And what else this implies is that you don’t make phone calls when you are at the table. Doing this is just rude and inconsiderate – and if you’re in a restaurant you will look like a complete moron.
If you do use the phone at the table you are making a statement to those around you, which is; ”I am not aware of your feelings and I have more important things to attend to other than enjoying your company.”
Another way to snub a companion with your mobile is to suddenly end a conversation by picking up a phone call without saying “Excuse me.” It’s somewhat interesting to break down and analyze this behavior because it happens all the time. It seems that technology has become such a core part of our lives that behavior–such as treating our mobile phones with the observance and attention that only a regular human being should get–is becoming normalized.
I’ve also been to classrooms in other countries’ Universities and have witnessed students talking on their phones. This is a big no-no.
Have you ever noticed at a party, a bar or restaurant, or any other socializing place – people keep checking their phones to make themselves look important, when in reality they are feeling insecure?
The ownership of mobile phones has given the general population a sense of self-importance. Furthermore, it has enabled them to degrade and undermine actual relationships. I really cannot understand why people depend on their phones so much. Even more, I cannot understand why people allow themselves to act impolitely because of their phones. I believe people should understand that what is important in life is face-to-face communication and the people around them.
dressingmyself
November 16, 2009
Using your mobile phone in a restaurant is not only (potentially) insulting to your dining companions, it can annoy those at surrounding tables.
People who do this may think it makes them look important. The reality is it makes people dislike them.